Looking for a creative way to beat your late winter blues? We caught up with “The Shackler” to get some pointers on his favourite kink: bondage and how it works in the gay world.

photo by: The Shackler @recon.com

 

What sparked your interest in the bondage scene?

I’ve been interested in bondage since I was very young and it probably started with watching Batman and Robin on TV as a kid. Seeing Robin tied up filled my imagination with ideas of what I would do had I been there. As an adult I began exploring and eventually I was fortunate to meet some people who were well established in kink and had dedicated playrooms. I admired what they had accomplished and went about creating my own unique version of it. Recon has been a great resource for connecting with like-minded people and I’m fortunate to live in an area with a healthy kink community.

photo by: The Shackler @recon.com

What do you get out of restraining a subject?

Restraining a sub is a huge turn-on for me. Having someone surrender control of their body to me, even briefly, is a powerful and profound gesture on their part. I also find incredible beauty in the boys I play with and trying to capture their grace and vulnerability in my photographs is very rewarding. Trust is also hugely important in any bondage scene. So the reputation I’ve established in the kink community is valuable to me and something I take seriously. Control is erotic but consent always comes first.

The sub’s enjoyment and satisfaction in a scene is important to any successful Dom, but a scene has to be worthwhile to both participants.

Does the Sub role ever get elevated to a position of dominance while having their bondage needs being served by the Dom?

I think this is a fascinating question and something I constantly deal with when negotiating a scene with someone new. It’s a real balancing act. Subs often approach me with a list of what they expect or want in a scene but they may be unwilling to offer me what I’m seeking. In such cases we are simply not a good match that results in their pleasure at the expense of mine – I would not be interested. The sub’s enjoyment and satisfaction in a scene is important to any successful Dom, but a scene has to be worthwhile to both participants. Early on I’ve put myself in situations where I’m simply servicing the sub, but I know now how to avoid that. That being said, a Dom with unhappy subs ends up with no subs.

Always leather & chains or sometimes rope? 

My bondage experience started with leather restraints and I’ve stuck with leather because for me it’s quick to administer, secure, and allows me to get down to the business that really interests me. I like the smell and feel of leather, it’s strong but still comfortable and really fits my style of bondage.

I admire those who work with rope, but I typically don’t have the patience for it. It’s just my personal preference. The rope-tying itself is a ritual and the results can be beautiful but bondage with rope requires more planning and diligence than I have. My style of play is more immediate and spontaneous. If I want to change the position of the sub mid-scene I can do that in seconds using leather restraints. 

photos and interview courtesy of TheShackler on recon.com

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