„This simple app that uses your mobile device’s location-based services to show you the guys closest to you which first launched in 2009, has exploded into the largest and most popular all-male location-based social network out there. With more than 5 million guys in 192 countries around the world — and approximately 10,000 more new users downloading the app every day — you’ll always find a new date, buddy, or friend on our app.” (Taken from the Grindr.com website).
Reads like an enticing concept. That’s their hook and before you know it you are in and sexting. We quickly fill the application and try our luck in this wild new world of online cruising, dating and searching for the perfect sex partner to top, or bottom with until the end of eternity or maybe for just an hour, depending on your mood at the moment. And all this is just is a few acronyms away – I am in!
You start flipping through the profiles that the GPS feature sorts automatically for you by their relative closeness right down to the meter. Just like a child in a candy store you can’t get enough of this. Then the harsh reality of the internet slaps you in the face. No Asians, no blacks, no fats, no skinnys, no fems, no ‘straight acting’, no bottoms only, no versatile, no, No, NO ! One by one these sexy guys’ lists of NOs has flushed you into into a digital worm hole of what was supposed to be a new and positive experience. Better living through technology?
I guess that it is human nature that always screws this part up. These same insecurities and prejudices are somehow amplified online by not having to interact face to face. Some totally defend this by saying – Wouldn’t you want to know all this upfront and stop wasting time with potential hookups that are not a good match? What happened to manners and being polite ? Either way, there are good guys and total wankers everywhere. In the end its up to you to draw your own line when it comes to who you want to interact with and those that you don’t.
It is here from this online marketplace of sexual hookups that Australian artist Adam Seymour extracts some of its gems to inspire his newest eye opening watercolor series. Using actual images and content from these profiles and interactions, he tells his very humorous story of dating and sexting in the wonderful world of apps. He is also working on a book due out soon to showcase the best of his tales.
BB: So, do you use Grindr?
AS: Absolutely! I find it really useful whilst traveling to meet locals and get tips. I’ve even been upgraded in hotel rooms, flights, etc. from befriending local homos in the know.
BB: How did you get started with this particular project?
AS: I had become intrigued by the idea of our private worlds being made public through social media. We reveal our most wild, deviant, sexual, fantastical selves to the digital universe for anyone to see and yet for some reason maintain the expectation that only your desired audience will see it. Many are shocked when they realize this is not the case.
BB: Do you think that it is odd that lots of guys focus on the negative instead of the positive?
AS: Yes all that negativity really sucks. But it is a great source of entertainment on so many levels. Personally, I find that expressing what we are actually looking for, instead of the ‘no’ list, in combination with a positive attitude is a much more successful route for me.
Black Boot for Boner Magazine
Artist’s website: www.ruralranga.com